I was given a lot of love letters in my life, but never have I written one to myself. So this one is not very "Vis a Vis - your medium for global wisdom", but a piece of my personal note.

I am joining Club 27 (laughter) in just a few days, but this is not my final letter. I fully feel that the old me is dying, and a new Victoria is coming to life. I have never felt that way. It's a beautiful catharsis - a rock&roll breakup of my life.

I won't lie, I have been thinking a lot about getting closer to 30, than my roaring 20s.
My friends love to hear about my aging because I am still the youngest one in the group, and we had to make peace with that because a) it won't change, unless the group changes, and b) mentally, I've always felt much older.

How do I really feel? I am nervous, in disbelief, but very excited.
And no, it's not because it's the peak of my ovulation. (coincidence?)

Old stories have closed, pt-ful people have shut their doors, old habits have died, and there's so much new that I don't know where to start!

Restart button.

The only constant currents are: I am a woman and a mom. Two things I love and embrace to the fullest.
It's a capital that can be leveraged across so many incredible life ventures.
And I haven't said the last word on the second one…

What did the world give me during these 27 years?

Definitely too much freedom of expression (laughter), which created a spoiled, "you can be anything" Barbie doll.
Genes and opportunities gave me potential that, without real hard work have not yet reached its 20% capacity.

But as I grow, I come to realize aging only makes me more desired and calm. And that's quite an achievement for an ADHD correspondent.

Make Bad Decisions Great Again

I am learning things I could only learn through bad decisions in life. They serve a purpose: becoming a better version of oneself.
Hopefully, I will live long enough to be able to prove it.

I am much more cautious about people who, in the past, have taken advantage of my youthfulness, joie de vivre, and clean intentions. I am still very open-hearted and intentional, but not to everyone.
I can spot a bad guy right away - my new little talent.

Here I am, at 27, with a new business venture, back to Uni, 10 ideas per second, tangled love life, and endless passion for a demography boost.

Why am I doing it all? I am just doing all I feel like doing, like always, without an agenda, but a big open heart.

Chaos is the tax of becoming.
It's mandatory for 20-something-year-olds.

Sure, I have a basic framework in both professional and private lives, but I end up going sideways all the time.
Maybe that's my Beauty and the Beast curse. Soft vs Wild.

It's both a hustle and a privilege. I travel a lot because of the incredible people I meet along the journey. For that, I could not be more grateful, but also - but honestly, it's always been like that. (Thanks to my dad!)

And as Warren Buffett says: "Never make a deal with a bad guy".

Aging is not just peachy rosè colors. It makes you realize your time is more valuable than anything else in this world.
FOMO is hits harder.
This limited time is the most equal capital we are given simply for showing up.

Living in a comfort zone for so many years hasn't taught me anything other than what it is in its purest form, and how destructive it is for relationships and love.

In all partnerships, looking in the same direction and communicating are non-negotiables.

Ms. Choosy

In Poland, we have a fun little traditional fortune-telling for the 1st Birthday.
I was given an array of subjects that were made to instinctively choose from.
Guess what I crawled onto.

Cash.

Other subjects were a wine glass and a prayer book.
As I grow, I have come to appreciate "fortunate" over fortune more.

I am not ashamed of being vain, it's not a bad quality in itself. I also love intellect and data way too much to fear V-side effects.
Vanity helps you self-discover and live your own style.
The only line of vanity I will never cross is putting a price on my life.

Vanity helps me perfect what I was given by nature and play with what was given by people.

Now You See Me, But…

Illusion surrounds us all to a much refined extent. AI, filters, automation, new tech, and fake news. Being an aware and authentic self is becoming a greater challenge for the next generations.
Commercial trends after trends kill our individuality, and that's what I am a firm believer in.

Living in peace is once you have reached peace within yourself.
You cannot be in a fight mode and give love to those who need it from you.
You need peace first, and with that comes love naturally.

Fight is the literal opposite of love. It's different from a fight for love, which is so rare these days…

We should all be diplomats in our private lives. And trust me, diplomats can have loads of fun. (That's for another article)

People nowadays give up the moment something slightly inconvenient pops up.
And then get disappointed when someone does the same with you.

What you give, you receive, almost all of the time.

27 Lessons I learned

1. Your distribution of trust will define your quality of life.

2. High standards and morals will keep your head and chest up.

3. Being flexible while being true to yourself with unshaken dignity will make any issue - a fun challenge.

4. You cannot make someone love you the way you need to be loved.
   If someone doesn't listen to your needs, they are exploiting you.
   If someone is not communicating, he stopped caring or is unable to love properly.

5. Age doesn't matter, until it's abusive. Ignorance, immaturity, or bitterness have no expiration date.

6. Experience more than education shapes who you are and the way you think. You don't have to be a scholar to learn anything you're passionate about.

7. Taking care of your physical appearance is a form of self-respect. And self-respect is much more than self-love.

8. Listening to your intuition can be the greatest skill in the most transforming decisions of your life.

9. What you see is not what it is 99% time. But questioning everything can be a cure and a poison in one.

10. A shitty peace deal is better than any shitty fight.

11. Children are the greatest source of power and motivation for a mother. But they are not for everyone.

12. What somebody thinks of you is none of your business because they don't live your life and won't ever have the honor to.

13. Family should be treated with extra patience and understanding. They have a bonus benefit in one's life.

14. Thinking about what is wrong with me is not always the right question to ask, because people can be bad to us for literally no reason. But it's always a choice whether we decide to stay in that place.

15. Having money is like being happy; it's just so hard to sustain both.

16. Most things are temporary in life, so why worry? It's all gonna pass, whether we do something about it or not.

17. Your favorite stuff won't be your favorite always, so don't get attached to them.

18. I still believe being fully chosen and committed means becoming a wife.

19. Real confidence comes from treating everyone equally and with respect.

20. Speaking multiple languages makes you 10x sexier and smarter.
    
    

    

    
    

21. Being beautiful gets boring after 10 minutes, you need a personality and great eye contact.

22. Dating is just meeting people, if you don't like meeting new people, don't date. Make the universe do its magic.

23. Absens carens - not showing up makes you lose an opportunity by 100%. With that, mark your presence by showing up!

24. Saving money only makes sense if they work for you passively, otherwise they lose its value by the laws of economics. Make your money work, and always have cash!

25. Don't listen to people who haven't created anything from scratch - while you're trying to do so. They won't understand.

26. We are indeed a little seed in the whole cosmic system; it's our choice if we want to grow it into something beautiful and mark our incredible existence.

27. You don't need a religion to be a great, spiritual human.

Cheers and Happy Birthday to all Sagittariuses!

VV